Freestyle

Relationship focus makes for a smoother ride

One of the hardest things for me to do when troubleshooting software is to change only one thing at a time — especially if each change requires a reboot as well as a recompile. I always want to change two or three things and then see if it’s still broken. But sometimes that just introduces more problems. Changing one variable at a time might seem like it takes forever, and yet it is often the fastest way to get everything working smoothly again.

Horses are like computers. They never do what you want, but they always do what you tell them or what you program them to do. ~ Pat Parelli

On Saturday, we had Saddles That Fit come out and do a saddle fitting analysis and testing for us. Susan and David are independent saddle fit specialists who arrive with a trailer full of dozens of saddles and accessories and a wealth of information and experience in solving saddle-related problems for their clients.

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Rocky and I were evaluated for conformation, fitness, lifestyle, and horsenality, and we narrowed the saddle choices down to about 10 to try on just standing still. From there, we took the four best fits into the arena and had him move around online first, and then with me in the saddle. On the two that made the cut, we had Scott ride as well. Both of us spent quite a while walking and trotting, backing and halting, performing hindquarter yields and tight turns, feeling for pinch points and excessive motion and tightness and all the other fit issues that make horses miserable and their riders frustrated.

In both of the top two saddles, Rocky licked and chewed all the way around the arena, relaxed his neck and head, and lifted willingly into the trot. Susan, who is a certified Centered Riding instructor, helped me get my body into the best position, and I kept my focus on “what does Rocky need right now for connection.” We had about six people watching, all of whom have seen me ride, and all of whom were able to comment on the improvements they saw in both of us.

In each case, we tried to change only one variable: the saddle. Not adding a back cinch for the first time in years, not asking for a lope or jumping or any other thing that would be different from our normal practice. We used the same (fantastic) wool pad for all of the saddles and adjusted the shims as needed.

The result was an overwhelming feeling of comfort and rightness in the TW Ranch Versatility saddle from Specialized Saddles.

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The round skirt model gave Rocky plenty of clearance for his lower back and pelvis. Naturally I forgot all about the existence of cameras, and the only picture I have is a still from a cell phone video of Erin cantering Rocky at the end of the 4 hours. Even so, you can see how the saddle looks perfectly fitted.

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Today when I went out to ride, I borrowed Erin’s Rebecca Treeless Saddle as the best option, and I sat in it the way I sat in the TW Ranch Versatility. My legs were more under me than I’ve been riding, even more so than my recent adjustment, and I felt poised for just about anything in a way I have not felt in … maybe ever? I was able to relax my calves and engage my core and managed not only to post the trot twice around the arena without faltering, but to do so while steering. And that was just one of our many walk-trot transitions.

We practiced carrot stick riding at the walk on a follow-the-rail pattern and through figure 8s, and I worked on lifting and lightness and breathing. Our gate opening was one of the best yet for our cool down walk around the ranch. I sang as we ambled along, and we ended with carrot stretches (with real carrots!) and a soothing tepid rinse at the wash station.

Today might have been the best ride I’ve ever had with Rocky. It figures that the camera crew had the day off so I have no proof, but that’s okay. I know, and more importantly, Rocky knows.

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The way it used to be wasn’t actually all that great

My first horse time in two weeks of travel and workalanche, and even though I could tell at the time what I was doing, I couldn’t stop doing it.

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I failed in the First Responsibility for the Human, which is Act like a partner, not like a predator. Our evening went something like this.

  1. Rocky met me at the gate, whuffling and sniffing me.
  2. I parked Rocky at the hay net in the barn while I groomed and saddled him. I forgot to clean his feet.
  3. I walked with Rocky around the ranch as a warm up, but didn’t do anything to connect him to me emotionally or mentally. No games, no appetizers on the lawn, no challenges. Directly opposite of what I learned in recent lessons with Erin about purposeful warm ups, or what Linda writes about in her article Achieving The Right Frame of Mind (Savvy Times, May 2012).

    Your warm up is everything. Success is all about preparation. ~ Linda Parelli

  4. I walked and trotted Rocky around the arena on-line a few times, gently tightening the cinch every lap or so.
  5. I pushed and pulled Rocky to line him up at the mounting block. It probably didn’t look like much pushing and pulling, and Rocky probably didn’t look all that uncooperative, to non-Parelli eyes. But Rocky is sensitive, and I was pretty much barking at him if not outright shouting.
  6. I climbed aboard and tried to keep us on the patterns I made last time I rode. We argued at some spilled hay, at corners, at gates. My cues were neither light nor consistent. Rocky turned more or less when I wanted him to and went more or less where I wanted him to, and stopped fairly close to where I wanted…but willing, enthusiastic partnership it was not. I noticed that when I think my shoulders are turned in the direction I want to go, they really aren’t; my upper body gets rigid and my arms have the reins way up and out.
  7. I finally began to listen to my inner voice, which had been screaming hey! slow down! listen to him! buy him dinner and a drink first!, and to get myself lighter, smoother, kinder. Rocky offered to tune in, at this point, and we both felt the connection. But in my weird churned-up state I couldn’t keep it. I kept tensing my calves and not relaxing into my heels. Rocky went back to acting gormless.
  8. We went out the gate to ride around the ranch, which he loves to do. He helped me open the gate. He saw something around the edge of the barn and his head came up and his adrenaline too, and I could feel him deciding whether to turn it into a “let’s pretend I’m terrified and see what Gina does” game. I sat deep and exerted leadership and we walked down the drive like it was nuthin’. I decided that I shouldn’t ride without my glasses, anymore because it keeps me looking at short distances instead of a point ahead where I want to go. That’s the Fourth Responsibility for the Human: Engage the natural power of focus.
  9. I rode back into the arena, dismounted, unsaddled, and sent him at liberty over to the spilled hay.
  10. I got my book and spent an hour reading in the arena. He divided his time between eating the hay and coming over to be scratched and rubbed. He gave me space and affection and I mellowed and tuned in to him. We had connection, and walked back to his pen in harmony.

In my last post, I wrote about how I needed to focus more on the connection. Tonight’s session showed what happens when you don’t prioritize the connection, when you don’t put the relationship first “just this once” or “just to get this one thing done.”

I had my pony ride and my muscles got time in the saddle, but our turns were sloppy and we made not a single straight line the whole time, on the ground or in the saddle. Not one. It felt very much like a normal practice ride, from 20 years ago. Long before I had heard about Parelli, but not long before I gave up on horses for 10 years.

I imagine how things could have gone, had I started out with the undemanding time I finished with, and asked myself in each moment “what can I do to nurture the connection?” And allowed the straight lines and turns and patterns to come from a place of I’m willing to try that! instead of let’s just get this over with.

Hm, how interesting!

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