Learning Experience

Location-based relationships

Sometimes I wonder if Rocky and I are the home-bound equivalent of a vacation romance. Here on the ranch he mostly asks me questions and is happy to see me and willing to follow my suggestions. But once we cross the road to go for The Walk, everything changes.rock-looking-at-field

The entire experience was positive for us both in the sense of every program has to start somewhere. Learning that he doesn’t even think to look at me when we’re out of the comfort zone, much less allow my own calm to ease his mind and calm him,  just means a chance to learn more horsemanship skills to deal with them appropriately.

Either that or my own calm was helping and that’s why he never once bolted or reared or jumped into my arms or retreated into a comatose state.

What I need to ask in my next lesson:

  • Am I shoving him off cliffs with my approaches to various thresholds or am I respecting the thresholds and helping him gain confidence?
  • How much can I allow him to eat of the grasses and plants along the way without making him sick?
  • How can I be more effective about enforcing the rule of walking behind me (knowing that Rocky spent 7 years being taught to put the human in Zone 2 before I got him)?
  • Is it dangerous to allow Rocky, specifically, to power into fast trot, canter, and gallop on the uneven ground at the school?
  • How do I “match his energy” or “match his energy and add four ounces” effectively?

If Erin doesn’t want to go for The Walk, I can probably simulate some of it in the front arena.

Some things I handled pretty well. I can see now when he’s ready to move on after a freeze-in-place-to-stare. I don’t get flustered, frustrated, or scared. I don’t blame Rock at all — it’s all about my learning as quickly as possible how to be the leader he needs out on the trail.

I’m so proud of his progress, too. He’s not afraid of bicycles or barking dogs or moving vehicles or walking over the wooden bridge and through a doorway-sized squeeze to walk down the narrow path between fences to get to the school. He was fascinated by the kids on the trampoline and we watched them for a long while. He didn’t completely panic about the bonfire or the goats, though he was tense. He had enough presence of mind that after staring and snorting at something for a while, he would rudely mug me for cookies.

rock-is-cookie-onHe understands that mailboxes often, but not always, have horse cookies on top, and therefore must be inspected. He doesn’t panic about stepping on his rope while grazing and exploring the forested hill and open grass field behind the school. He inspected all rocks and stumps at the school in case of cookies.

Most importantly he didn’t fall over when he lost his balance galloping in a circle and he didn’t step in a hole and snap his leg. Nor did he aim any kicking at me — he had to release the energy but didn’t do it in my direction.

When we got back to the lane toward home, he spooked in place twice at the fathers-sons-Labrador football game, then realized they weren’t going to eat him and got absorbed in acorns instead. Even when one dad intercepted a pass and ran all 90 yards to the end zone right next to us — basically sprinting toward Rock the whole time — Rock didn’t even flinch.

I ended with some loose horse time in the arena, just hanging out. He explored every corner and obstacle in case of cookies, and was calm and even affectionate with me. He stood patiently at the pasture gate to be blanketed (and helped by putting his head through the neck hole) even though he could see that the hay had already been distributed and both Riley and Centella were eating.

Jan and Dan will be here for four days in a row this week, and we will try to take all the animals on The Walk at least twice and may even be able to do it daily.

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A study in contrasts: safety, comfort, and play

I took two business trips this month, and each time, I got home in the middle of the night and played with the horse “for reals” in the morning.

The horse that showed up was radically different, because so was the human.

Arrow 4: Protecting Your Herd of Two. Look for opportunities to protect your herd of two. From this moment on, your horse will be testing you to see who’s Alpha. Are you the one who provides the safety, comfort and play in your herd of two? ~ Parelli Program Guide 1: Essential Savvy Arrows, Level 2: Harmony, 2005

The first trip: 9 days away

After flying across the country and driving an hour and a half from the airport, arriving home at 3am, I was too tired to go to pasture when I pulled in. I went out the next morning and set up the obstacle course I sketched out to use for my on-line savvy audition.

I had to play catching game to halter Rocky and then brought him in to do a run-through of the course, with the goal of learning where the holes are so I could “isolate, separate, and recombine” in our next sessions and then film the audition.

The first hole appeared right away when he couldn’t do sideways over the first pole, and it got worse from there.

Later, of course, I realized that I didn’t encourage his ideas first and then cause my ideas to become his, I didn’t listen to his feedback, and I had gone direct-line — which I did not recognize at the time because a) it’s rare for me and b) my goal was to uncover holes, not to be perfect or successful.

The second trip: 4 days away

After driving three hours, plus a stop at the 24 hour pharmacy, a stop for groceries at the late-night store, and a stop at the ATM, I pulled in at 11 and went immediately to the pasture with a 2.5 pound bag of carrots and distributed them among the four herdmates.

In the morning, I went out and got Salsa from his day room, putting a loop of line around his neck to lead him to the arena. Rocky met me at the gate of the back 40 and I brought him to the arena with just a loop. I set them both free while Seth, Jedi, and I visited.

Rocky rolled vigorously in several places around the arena, including right next to us humans. He then bucked and galloped around some, driving Salsa a few times and checking in with me occasionally. None of his kicks were in the direction of the humans, and he didn’t crowd into our bubbles either. When he came over we petted him and then I tried scratching the base of his neck, and he made camel faces, which is a new thing he’s doing: trusting me enough to enjoy the scratch and to express that enjoyment. I stopped before he asked me to, as I am hoping to satisfy him yet leave him wanting more.

We visited for about 45 minutes and then I played halter-not-wrestle with Salsa and took him back to his pen. As we walked through the gate, I opened it wide and said “it’s okay Rocky, c’mon out” and he did. He hung out by Salsa for a while, then wandered around snuffling for oat pellets and hay wisps. He almost walked on the huge blue tarp over the manure pile then changed his mind with a very teensy double-take. He hung out next to Sabrina.

I don’t know what he did then as I had to walk Seth to his car and visit with Leslie, but when I went back, Rocky was in the barn aisle munching on some loose hay. As I approached he gave me a look like “uh oh am I in trouble” but I just greeted him and kicked the ball for the dog. I got a curry and brush and did a very, very light once-over, more to show him that grooming can be pleasant, and not really getting him very clean. I picked his hooves with no resistance from him other than that it hurts to have the right hind up for too long. I’m getting better at giving him breaks, and he’s getting better at lifting it as soon as I request it. Hrm, how interesting.

When I finally put the loop around his neck he took a last bite and then followed me willingly to the back 40. He stayed with me after I took the rope off.

I came into the house all floaty and full of positive energy. He rolled almost within touching distance! He ran around playfully! He wanted to be scratched! He stuck with me!

I need to remember this for the rest of our days together. Don’t come back and immediately jump right back in where we’d left off. Have a day  to get reacquainted before jumping right back into the program.

That’s how to re-establish the trust, through providing  safety (no pushing), comfort (no new challenging things to learn), and play (Rocky’s ideas take priority).

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