It’s not about the…

Not long ago, the full power of this phrase hit me.

It’s not about the fire, tractor, baseball game, trailer, pigs, other riders, threshold. It’s about the trust, which is another way of saying — wait for it — the relationship.

The relationship is the result and the measure of the trust he has in me and my leadership to keep him safe, comfortable, and engaged.

When that trust is 100 percent it doesn’t matter what I ask him to do, he’ll try to do it — because he knows I won’t push him to do anything he can’t do or isn’t ready for. When that engagement is 100 percent, it doesn’t matter what else is going on around us, because his focus will be on me.

I love how I understand the words of a Parellism … then one day I understand the meaning … then one day I understand the deeper meaning … and then one day it goes schwoom into my bone marrow.

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4 thoughts on “It’s not about the…

  1. “I like how you talk..” 😉

  2. horsegirlonajourney

    Thanks! *blush*

  3. I have found my entire journey through Parelli is about discovering the deeper layers of things I thought I already understood.

  4. horsegirlonajourney

    Lisa, that’s exactly it! Well said!

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