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Horse-crazy? It doesn’t have to be “just” a dream.

All through childhood, my chant at every birthday candle, fountain, and other wish-appropriate occasion was “please let me someday have a horse and enough money to take care of it.” I remember putting a lot of time and effort into trying to find a phrase that encompassed that idea without using “and,” as I worried that “and” indicated two wishes, and I did not want the wish-granting beings to think I was trying to sneak an extra one in or go over my quota.

I considered just wishing for money, as obviously I would use it to care for horses, but that seemed greedy and non-specific. Pretty much everyone wants more money, so it didn’t seem special enough to use for a wish. It also entailed the risk that money would arrive but not in the quantities required to transform it into manure.

I also considered alternating the wishes: money with the birthday candle and a horse with the penny fountain, for example. But that had the same risks as just wishing for money. Even worse, it could backfire and result in a horse that I would have for a little while but then would be taken away because I didn’t have the means to take care of it.

Apparently the “and” did not negate the wish, for here I am, three months shy of 40 birthday candles, renting a home on the same property where I board my herd of three.

“What makes the difference between wishing and realizing our wishes? Lots of things, and it may take months or years for wish to come true, but it’s far more likely to happen when you care so much about a wish that you’ll do all you can to make it happen.” ~ Mr. Rogers

I don’t let myself regret the detours and delays that kept me from starting my horsemanship journey for too many decades. (I bought a house in Los Angeles in 2003; why oh why didn’t I buy a horse instead? I moved from San Francisco to Los Angeles in 1999; why oh why didn’t I wonder if there was any such thing as horse-zoned suburbs that rented apartments? I took hunter/jumper lessons in Golden Gate Park in the 1990s and it was horrendous; why oh why didn’t I look for a facility and an instructor that were a better fit for me?)

As we learn from Disney’s version of The Lion King, you have to put your behind in the past. Can’t change it, can only learn from it, and move on.

But I do want to tell anyone who, like me, believed that horses were something that happened to other people, that you do not have to wait until you are divorced or fed up or — gasp — old to get your first horse. You don’t have to marry and have kids if you don’t want to (and if you do want to, it’s worth spending time at Parelli events to find someone compatible with your horsemanship dreams). You don’t have to buy a house (it’s not the “investment” that the American Myth says it is), you don’t have to own property or live in the country to have a horse, and you don’t have to “stick it out” in normal lesson barns until you get your own horse to start Parelli.

I don’t want to save “just one person” from the delay and frustration and sorrow of believing it will never happen for you. I want to save you all.


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Horse texting codes for Parelli students

The message boards over at the Bay Area Equestrian Network came up with some text codes for horsefolks. Here are some cute ones:

  • HIMB – Hay in My BRA
  • PIHH – Poop Induced Half Halt
  • HRHCF – husband realized horse costs, fainted
  • SLH – Smell like horse
  • HTNHFH – Hiding the new horse from hubby
  • WWFNS – Will work for new saddle
  • ALIGAR – At least I got a ribbon

It got me thinking of what PNH student text codes would be like, and I came up with these:

  • IWRB – I went right brain
  • PTRF – Putting the relationship first
  • WYTOMINOMB – What you think of me is none of my business
  • HHI – Hm, how interesting
  • HOITI – Horse offered, I took it
  • IGO – I got off
  • WPFC – Will play for cookies
  • TWT? – Tarp, what tarp?
  • DCSBR – Dropped carrot stick, but recovered
  • PDY – Play day, yay!

The Savvy Club message boards already use BFO – Blinding flash of the obvious and DH – Dear husband.

I like (and sympathize) with the humor of BAEN’s “BBM – Bastard just bit me,” but after three years of horse ownership and Parelli, I wouldn’t think to phrase it that way. I would probably send the following picture with something like “MAW – My attention wandered,” because I like the pun and because it’s entirely my fault that I got bitten:

Here’s the culprit:

Got good text codes? Share them in the comments.

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